Check out these photographs of me! This first photographs was photograph about 6 years ago. And the second one a few months ago.
I have come a long way.
When I started my company one of my first clients, told me to wear black as not to distract the clients an to be as invisible as possible. It was actually in my contract I had to wear black (just so you know I didn’t work for her again). But there was part of me that believed it. Believed that I need to wear black and a suite to look professional. That I needed to dress this certain way to be taken seriously.
When I told the Kailash Sozzani, stylist that was working with at the time, she got so angry. She said I should be in colors, playful and fun. Everyone should see me and know I am there.
That was actually harder for me to accept. The only thing I could try was wearing colors but still in suits! HA!
And it felt good cause people noticed me.
See, when people see you, notice you, remember you, they are more likely to hire you!!
Over this years it’s been this journey of stepping into my edge of dressing who I am and how I want to express and feel. AND Not what is expected of me.
I want this for you.
Right now I wake up in the morning and think about what should I put on that would light the up, put a smile on my face, and allow that sexy side to shine though.
It’s an edge for me. To dress sexy at all, just out in my daily life and let the world see me that way. THEN i have played with the edge can I dress sexy while shooting. Is that possible?
See, growing up my mom was against sexy. She was a feminist and was angry at the world for sexualizing woman. She wanted me to live in a world that saw me for my brains and intellect.
And YES. THANK YOU MOM. I want a world like that too. I also want a world that all women are sexy because they are women. I want a world where women can express who they are with out consequence.
So that girley sexy side never got air time. She never got seen.
AND now she is, and she is so grateful I am listening and allow her out.
And I am finding that she can come out even when I am shooting. It brings out a expressing in me that brings more creativity and juice to my clients. And it also gives them permission to be how they want to be.
Especially while in Paris where there is a love for the feminine. Young woman, older woman, are seen as sexy.
It has given me a new freedom, a personal freedom, a freedom of choice. I am not trapped into anything that I MUST wear to fit the norms. Instead its’ what lights me up. Makes me feel. Good.
I want that for you too. As you get up this morning, I desire that you walk into you closet and put on the things that makes you feel the best and giggle with delight.